I assume most of you have figured this out but this was a revelation to me. Here is how to avoid wasting all sorts of mental energy while dating: DON'T THINK.
I am not joking; don't think about it. Don't think about why the person was signaling interest the week before but not yesterday. Don't think about why he/she didn't reply to your e-mail or text message. Don't think that you screwed up and now someone is upset at you. It's not a big deal. There's no way that you can possibly figure out precisely what is going on in a person's life for you to really know anything. Just move on and do more important things in your life (which you surely must have). Meet different people. It is such a simple rule of thumb and it just occurred to me recently. Then again, this is easier said than done but it is good to have in mind in the back of your head.
Feel free to disagree but I think most people would agree with me about this point.
very true, lester. i've been trying to live by that rule for a while...it's easier said than done, but it definitely helps. :)
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